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They Told Me Series

They Told Me… I Wasn’t the “Right” Color

They Told Me… I Wasn’t the “Right” Color

I was never the right color. Colorism is real, Y’all. It’s sad that people of color will subscribe to the systematically racist notion that someone is more or less beautiful because of their skin pigment. Light skinned people, dark-skinned people, and folks in between can […]

They Told Me… I Was Fat

They Told Me… I Was Fat

“If you don’t want to be fat… do something about it.” This statement has followed me from my childhood. It’s one of the most unproductive, frustrating, infuriating, discouraging, and hurtful statements I have heard. Since I was a child, a normal sized little girl, I […]

They Told Me… I Was Too Nice

They Told Me… I Was Too Nice

I was a painfully shy child. I wasn’t outspoken with my peers, with the exception of my best friends. In elementary school, I didn’t really have friends, but when I did get “friends” was bullied a lot by them and it made me think something […]

They Told Me …I Wasn’t Good Enough

They Told Me …I Wasn’t Good Enough

I struggled with this for a good portion of my life. There was this person (who will remain nameless) who treated me terribly as a kid. In their effort to prove that I wasn’t valuable, I once had my nine-year-old hand shoved into a dirty […]