I come from a lineage of broken male-female relationships; women who gave it all to men who didn’t know what to do with such treasures. The aftermath of such devastating heartbreak led my grandmother and mother to become distrustful of men, to shroud themselves in […]
Month: March 2019
“A crowd of troublemakers from the town surrounded the house. They began beating at the door and shouting to the old man, “Bring out the man who is staying with you so we can have sex with him.” The old man stepped outside to talk […]
The “do you” stage of life is a popular world view. It encourages us to seek experiences without any advice or consideration. We have even twisted it to sound more like it’s a sense freedom in our decision making. But, it’s just a catchy phrase that affirms that going out and experiencing things for ourselves is going to produce something more satisfying than listening to the wisdom of others. Who, more times than not, have came out on the other side of that same experience with a desire for people to understand that there was a better option. We have gotten caught in this cycle that this is how things are done and it’s everything we are warned against. Why are we so doubtful when time and time again wisdom has shown to be the best teacher?
If you have ever needed to change a tire and didn’t know how, you look up exactly how to do it or take it to someone who knows. In that moment we needed to be taught or helped and ripping the tire off your car because you wanted to try it yourself is reckless. In the same way, we should not make a decision about something without first seeking some sort of guidance. God has created friendships with intention and after bringing him the question of should we experience this or should we trust that in his wisdom there is another route, we need to openly process it with the people he has placed around us.
Where we tend to fall short is thinking that the people God has put in our life don’t want to see us experience good things. Even after long talks with some of my closest friends about a life decision I was making, something inside me couldn’t resist the thought that maybe they were withholding something good from me. I felt a pridefulness in me arise and I felt like if I didn’t try for myself then I would never truly know. You can trace this insecurity back to the garden.
Eve considered that God was withholding something good from her. Her sin wasn’t that she had questions, but that she made a decision to experience the fruit rather than trust that she had everything she needed through God and even more was herself, whole in Him. From the beginning, we have rebelled against God. If we have issues accepting wise words and direction from his people, I think it’s a strong reflection of how we stand before him.
The moments we come to a crossroad where we have to decide between a experience and trusting in someone’s advice, Jesus is there at the center. He wants you to ask him and seek first what he has to say about it and openly process it with the people he has given you. Hear me when I say that Jesus withholds no good thing from those that love him. He wants to see us live adventurous lives. He wants us to experience things, but not all things that are to be experienced are from God. We need to not hate correction and wisdom. If we truly want to live adventurously and freely, it has to be within his safe perimeter.
As we grow and learn to love wisdom, I encourage you to examine yourself. Do we, intentionally or unintentionally, find ourselves in the “do you” phase? Are we making decisions before considering the physical, emotional, and spiritual consequences all in the name of experience? Do we puff up against caution given to us and why?
My hope is that we really examine our answers to these questions and bring them to God and the people in our lives so that through embracing wisdom we can wholly experience His goodness.
Written By: Marilyn Migliaccio
With all the recent scandals in the news (seriously, ALL cause you can take your pick) I find it so disheartening to know how many people subscribe to the idea of canceling people. If you’re unfamiliar with the cancel culture it’s basically this: when someone […]